““Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity...it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” -Melody Beattie”
How often do you see the blessings in your circumstances?
When was the last time you expressed your genuine appreciation for another individual?
When was the last time you felt appreciated?
What did that feel like?
As we are in the midst of the hectic holiday season, we often become so preoccupied with responsibilities, accommodations, and to-do lists, that the essence and beauty of the season is unfortunately missed and gone astray in a blur.
So what can we do to pause and enjoy this time of the year?
We can give THANKS, abundantly.
According to Martin Seligman, founder of Positive Psychology, expressing gratitude can make you a happier person. Psychological studies have shown that gratitude positively correlates with joy, happiness, and life satisfaction.
Gratitude can change negative mental scripts of worry, self-doubt, and anxiety into a healthier focus of love and contentment.
This exercise is called the Gratitude Letter or Gratitude Visit.
- Select one important person from your past or present who has made a major positive difference in your life, preferably someone to whom you have never fully expressed your thanks.
- Write a one page-long testimonial. Take your time composing this. Detail exactly what that special person did and why it had such an impact on you. Thank them for their impact on your life. Try to be as specific as possible.
- Stamp, address, and mail your letter or visit the person and read him or her your letter of appreciation.
- How did this exercise make you feel? (haha, yes I know this is a typical therapist question but I couldn’t help myself and would love to hear about your experience!)
NOW ITS MY TURN.
On a daily basis, my life is filled with rich encounters with the most stunning and authentic individuals. Life would not be as wonderful and full without them and for that, I am thankful.
To the people listed below, THANK YOU, from the deepest part of my being, for enriching my existence with your beautiful presence and for teaching me the following:
Clients: Bravery, Vulnerability, Strength
Thank you for taking the courageous step to ask for help. Overcoming life’s hardships and painful wounds is a battle that we all struggle with. You are empowered to progress and make healthy strides. You are a survivor and I am inspired and moved by your honesty, strength and resiliency. Thank you for sharing your heart with me.
Students: Patience, Perseverance, Humor
What can I say? You encompass the majority of my life. I see you more than I see my family and friends lol. For the last ten years, hundreds of you have come and gone and yet each one of you has left a nugget of joy in my heart. I am inspired by your creativity, perseverance, and humor every.single.day. The excitement, intellect, and uniqueness you all bring is heart warming. You challenge me to be more patient, kind, and understanding. Although my role may be to educate you, I learn from you daily. Thank you for bringing life into my “job.”
Therapists: Compassion, Grace, Advocacy
You are a community of empathetic and compassionate souls. I admire the passion and grace you have for your clients. You provide a safe space for those who are hurting and help with transformation and healing. You model healthy communication, attachment, and growth. I am encouraged by your knowledge, authenticity, and ability to really SEE your clients. Thank you for making people feel significant.
Teachers: Selflessness, Sacrifice, Humility
Many people often believe that teaching is considered a thankless job, yet you continue to do it with fervor. Every day, you sacrifice your time, health, and resources for your students. The love and commitment you pour into the lives of each individual learner is humbling. You never give up on your students and continue to care for them even if some have shown a lack of care for you. Thank you for teaching me about motivation and dedication.
Friends: Support, Acceptance, Transparency
What would life be like without you? Lonely…boring…empty. You are my pseudo family. Your willingness to listen, nurture, and support is so incredibly appreciated.Your wisdom and wit have made this life a wonderful life to live. You are trustworthy and loyal and make hardships more bearable. You are open and generous with your love. Thank you for teaching me how to receive care.
Family: Love, Security, Self-Worth
Thank you for loving me well and teaching me how to love others well. You are a model of secure attachment. You are my safe haven. When life has shaken my foundation, you have been my rock. In a world full of turmoil and uncertainty, you are a place of refuge and abundant love. You are caretakers and a source of comfort. You love others even when their actions are unlovable. Your unconditional affection has allowed our family to thrive. Thank you for making me feel valued.
Abundant thanks = abundant Joy :-)
Please feel free to contact me with topics you would like to read about. Have a happy November!
Hugs! -Judy
Brea, CA